Be a good parents or forget about MARRIAGE

I have getting married for 4 years in running, since six of july 2008, we have been together trough everthing that could happen in a young couple like us, but we manage to trough it all with love and sincerity. Back to five years ago when i'm still single, I've seen a lot of what is marriage was, sometimes i even asked friends or family who has got married about it, what it feel like when you have got married? is it feels good? i bet it good, you never feel lonely, you have someone to look up to, you have a reason to live, you have your time wasted for something useful, then she said " not as smooth as what you have seen, it is about struggle and surrender, two different person, different gender, different background of life has been put together under the same roof to be living together ever after, you have no idea that you have chose the right person or not, your couple will give what you have dream and desire for, you both will love forever, it is hard. Then i asked her again " but you have made this far, then you have succeeding in making a great relationship cause i believe love will find the way, then she told me " We have children to raised for, the center of view is not on us anymore, but on our children, our son and daughter, and they makes our loves stronger everyday, we sees a beautiful eyes, smiling faces, hugs and even kisses from them, believe me, if you survive as a couple during the beginning of your marriage before you have a child, but i know it's going to be very hard, but after you have your first child, you will know, what life you should be running for, you have a reason to live, you have a reason why you work so hard, you have someone who is waiting for your kisses and hugs, and they love it.

Relieving for me since that day i was planning my marriage to be held soon, but my marriage is not that hard though, our three years of marriage when we did not have Aira yet was still lovely, we can accept our diffrences, we know what marriage is and the reason to tie a knot togehter back in three years ago, but yes, after Aira was born, our small family life is getting much much better, we put full attention to her, no matter how exhausted we are, no matter we needs like some kind of vacation as a couple, cause we don't get any honeymoon yet after married though, but it is ok, everyday is a blessing to us, everyday is heaven in life indeed.

But i have read a lot of news, stories, about marriage that is not working and even end up in divorces even after the have a child, it's like hell for me, i can even imagine a daughter who seen her parents split in, fighting, shouting, she don't even have a friend to talk with, sad right. You don't realize how much you have neglected those kids, they watch TV alone, while their mom is busy with her routine, and her daddy is out of nowhere, she looks like don't understand yet what had happened, but believe me, her heart is crying, she must have thinking "this is not what i dreams of life was".

Her parents never took the young girl to churchNever spoke of His name never read her His wordTwo non-believers walking lost in this worldTook their baby with them, what a sad little girl

Her daddy drank all day and mommy did drugsNever wanted to play or give kisses and hugsShe'd watch the TV and sit there on the couchWhile her mom fell asleep and her daddy went out

And the drinking and the fightingJust got worse every nightBehind their couch she'd be hidingOh what a sad little life

And like it always does the bad just got worseWith every slap and every curseUntil her daddy in a drunk rage one nightUsed a gun on her mom and then took his life

And some people from the cityTook the girl far awayTo a new mom and a new dadKisses and hugs everyday

Her first day of Sunday school the teacher walked inAnd a small little girl stared at a picture of HimShe said, “I know that Man up there on that crossI don't know His name but I know He got off”

'Cause He was there in my old houseHe held me close to His sideAs I hid there behind our couchThe night that my parents died

Read that lyrics, sad, soo sad, i can feel how that litlle girl feel breakdown and she knew very well of life she would wanted, not that life, she would willing to trade her life just to feel a day of joy and happiness, a joy of living with her parents, she even hoping just to get a kiss or a hug.

So parents or parents wannabe, prepare yourself, marriage is not easy but yet not that hard, if you have children in your marriage please remember how bad they wanted to get love from you both, and husband and wife, and to every couple out there, be patience in life, take one step at a time, don't get in rush, i'm wishing you all the best for your marriage and your future marriage, be a great parent.
Love is not such take and give thing, love is when you are not expecting people to love you the way you love them, don't expect them to do the way you like, but do what they love instead, love is about giving and caring, if you said you love someone, then accept them the way they be, and be grateful to god always, then you will find peace and happiness in your life.
To my wife and my angel Aira, Daddy loves you, i'm willing to do anything to put that smiles on you both everyday always. :)